candor \KAN-der\, noun:
1. honesty in giving one's view or opinion; frankness and sincerity
2. fairness; impartiality
Candoris just another word for honesty.
I believe in honesty. I also believe in diplomacy, but I only learned that as an adult.
My mother used to say I was honest as the day is long. Does that mean I lie more in the Winter? Not sure she ever gave me an answer for my wise acre comment.
I try to be honest in all things unless being diplomatic is the better choice.
The manuscript I'm working on now is about honesty. It's about honesty with yourself as well as others. Anyone can lie to themselves about who they are and whether they possess certain traits. That is, until they have children. When you have that trait reflected back at you in a smaller version, you can no longer deny that you are a certain way. My oldest son has my sarcasm gene. What a surprise! But I like my sarcasm. It has lightened many tense situations over the years.
My hero in my latest story lies by omission about who he really is. He pretends to be something he isn't. He doesnt' change his basic character, but he does change some facts to get the heroine. But those facts also contribute to who he is.
The heroine is just coming to terms with who she is and who she will never be. And she's okay with it. I know what that's like. In the last two years I've purged my basement of many things. A lot of them were projects that reflected a person I wanted to be. I've decided I'm okay with not being that person. That's why I like this heroine. She's okay with who she is.
When I was a kid I thought adults knew it all. That at some point you are comfortable with yourself. I wish I'd known it would take me this long to get to that point. I might have tried harder.
Back to honesty.
What aren't you being honest with yourself about?